"How did I end up here?" the oystercatcher thinks to himself as he sits at the dining table in the large living room of the owl he didn't know this morning. The owl, a perfect hostess, serves him the first of three courses.The oystercatcher is in for a long evening. The silence in the room fills with the sounds of eating and the increasingly loud ticking of a clock.
The complex structure of authenticity and adaptation that results from interpersonal interaction has fascinated me for a long time. Whether we meet someone or come into contact with strangers: Communication, verbal and non-verbal, is omnipresent. There are common ideas about how it works best, but they don't necessarily apply equally to everyone. Through the confrontation with ubiquitous conformist social values and norms of how one should behave in a society, behaviour that does not conform to the norm is quickly seen as less compatible, i.e. socially acceptable. It is precisely the withdrawn that is often misunderstood.
In "Pull yourself together", I want to talk about this confrontation with one's own character, the fine line between "standing up for one's own peculiarities" and "conforming to social norms".
The oystercatcher no longer manages to trust his feelings but believes he has to give in to what is expected of him: To be sociable.